And yet, the one in the many doesn't just get the brunt of ideas. Because
they have the same values as I do, they get to experience seeing through the
frame and seeing the person behind the idea. They get to come in and really
help me create it. The values continue to matter because they help me to
advance my ideas. The people who are just “in my network” are there to help
test ideas, not refine or advance.

Thank you for the concrete example.

With the people you spoke to this week, was the 1 worth the many? Was the
investment of conversation worth the connection you made? I've been feeling
like I've been having a lot of new conversations lately with a lot of new
people. It's not that I don't want to be conversing, it's that I'm hungry
for the 1 in the many.

Forming bonds that create change within. Yeah. I want more that too.

I formerly didn't see any difference, but I am now just starting to
appreciate (or, really dislike) the differences I have found. To me, I am
passionate about a topic or an idea. My values are for certain types of
relationships and experiences. Semantically, they are very similar. But, in
practice, I keep on finding more people who are passionate about the things
that I am passionate about, but they value different relationships and
connections even in those things.

Concretely, this is an extension of my wish to find more family-oriented
people in my community. It is an extension of wanting people to not settle
for just being passionate about change (or an aspect of change), but
actually forming the bonds that create the change within themselves.

I had a conversation with a number of people this week, all of which were
passionate about technology. However, only in one did I feel as though we
valued the same things. We were both talking about creating something new
within our families and our companies, and not just about how cool the tech
or the integration was. It was a slight difference, but an important one.

might that be you ben wilkoff?

this is why i'm calling on and working with a new batch of expert tutors. i would love for you to join that team. i've already told them about you. this has been in the making for like a year – every since my first brush with the most amazing expert tutor. all of these guys have hailed from Seth Godin's online triiibe – which i joined a year ago jan.
these particular guys i'm working with now – just started helping me clarify two weeks ago.

Your ideas and ability to pull things together are just amazing, but I feel
as though it is getting lost in the translation for many people. I feel like
you might be easy to write off as someone who is artsy or too futurist. But,
you are capable of creating change and articulating what needs to happen in
schools better than anyone I have recently read. You just need someone else
who can focus the work so that other people can see how brilliant it is.
(You don't NEED that, but I guess I would love for that to happen because I
think people are missing out.)

You are force to be reckoned with and I think people should see that.

and in my utopian view of ple's – there's no stealing.
to a fault i guess. sometimes i wish i didn't assume so much.

I'm intrigued by your use of “expert tutor” a bunch. Have you written about
the process of choosing or how they tutor you?

my expert tutor always said – without relationships – there is no value.
sounds like you are saying – without shared values – there is no true relationship….